Answering the following questions might help clarify things:
- Is is okay when people who are uneasy with your silence say, “Speak if you can hear me” – particularly EMTs?
- Do you enjoy playing one-on-none basketball?
- While standing by yourself at parties, do you have any problem with people mistaking you for a coat tree?
- Are you oblivious to the fact your job title is “That Woman Who Sits by the Copy Machine”?
- While engaging in foreplay, are you comfortable asking to be alone for a few minutes?
- Do you eagerly anticipate having an intelligent conversation with yourself?
- Is it reassuring to know your dog is the one creature to whom you can relate?
- Do you enjoy staying at home alone on a Friday night, reading a book about a person who is miserable staying home alone on a Friday night?
- Is pretending to listen to your boss relaxing?
- Do you enjoy playing host when your family arrives for an intervention?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, congratulations. Your insecurities don’t need to be taken in a scooch. Your skin fits just fine.